“Before you can live a part of you has to die. You have to let go of what could have been, how you should have acted and what you wish you would have said differently. You have to accept that you can’t change the past experiences, opinions of others at that moment in time or outcomes from their choices or yours. When you finally recognize that truth then you will understand the true meaning of forgiveness of yourself and others. From this point you will finally be free.” ― Shannon L. Alder
At times, when I was younger it seemed as though life contained an endless supply of days. It didn’t matter how long I held a grudge or how long I waited to do something I wanted to do—there would be an unlimited pool of other opportunities. At least, that’s what I thought back then.
Maybe it’s life’s passage from childhood to adulthood, the moment when you realize life happens now and that’s all you’re guaranteed. It doesn’t really hit you when you merely know it intellectually, like you know your ABCs, state capitals, and other concrete facts you learn in school.
It hits you when somehow you feel it as you get older. Maybe your health declines. You lose someone you love. A tragedy shocks your world. It isn’t until you realize that all life fades…. that you realize right now and today is a commodity, and a scarce one at that.
But for those of us who take precarious decisions, life may be different. How true that is. Stare life in the eyes as you experience it like a roller coaster ride. The meaning of your life is something you create day after day with your own actions and thoughts. Life is made up of choices and decision making is critical as each choice has both consequences and benefits. Always ask what we can learn, and how we can move forward, and stop ourselves from blaming other people if things aren’t the way we would like them to be.
Mark J asked us to make an index card with a dash between when we were born and a date we would die. That was the hardest thing for me to do. Then to look at it and realize how little time we have.(Not that I plan to dwell on it). We then realize how valuable and precious time is.
He then asked us to put underneath the dash, When Will I Begin?
I want to Be adventurous; Explore, live on the edge a little, and embrace new challenges. Visit new places with my loved ones. Take the road less traveled. Don’t stick to the same old, same old. Life is more exciting with adventure! What about you?
Carpe Diem or Seize the Day. Live each day as if it’s your last and overall just do it! Like they say, Yesterday is history, Tomorrow is a mystery but today is a gift, that’s why it’s called the present. Life presents us with a lifetime of opportunities but the opportunity of a lifetime is got when right choices are followed. Be present to enjoy the moment. Each day is a fresh start with options just waiting to be explored, so what are you waiting for?
From the date we are born to the date we die, what matters most is the dash between those years. For the dash represents all the time that you spend and only those who love you will know what that little line is worth. For it doesn’t matter how much we own or all the material things we have such as cars, homes, or money. What matters most is how we lived our lives with kindness, appreciation, gratitude, love, honesty, and with integrity and most of all how we spend our dash.